Question: I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I love him however he makes me so sad sometimes. The other day I decided to wear make up to school and he had a go at me when I saw him after school. He told me that he doesn’t like it when I wear make up. It upset me a little however I thought he would just prefer it that I didn’t wear it, however I then painted my nails when I went to visit him and he didn’t talk to me for nearly 2 hours. I don’t know what to do. I love him but I also really enjoy wearing make up.
Answer: My boyfriend doesn’t like it when I wear make up either. When we’re going out I reserve the last 10 minutes to apply my face as it is said, and more times than not he will say “but you don’t need to wear make up.” I’m starting to think that boys really don’t mind it when their girlfriends have absolutely no make up on their face, and that’s the way it should be.
Cosmetic beauty only gets a girl so far, however it’s also a big part of a lot of girls lives. My best friend works for Christian Dior and her whole life is make up, and that’s not a bad thing at all. Have you told your boyfriend that you enjoy wearing make up? He may be trying to tell you that you’re wasting your time by making the extra effort when you see him, since he thinks your beautiful with or without it.
However your letter concerns me a little. By the way your boyfriend is expressing anger at you and is ignoring you for a long time, it sounds like he is using methods to control you mentally. I don’t wish to upset you however a boyfriend should never make his girlfriend feel sad like that. Be honest with him, tell him you don’t like it when he treats you like this, and if he’s a boy worth keeping then he’ll understand and apologise.
Good luck, and you keep wearing make up if you want to. It’s your decision, no one else’s.